Had an interesting discussion yesterday on prostitution and I realized the world is full of varied opinions on the topic.
Its ok when you’re horny and you have no other choice.
Its easier than the baggage of a relationship.
I have to spend too much time working at a real woman to get her into bed.
I’ll never pay for sex, that just takes the magic out of it.
I prefer to be with a woman who wants to be with me for the sheer pleasure of it.
I can’t sleep with a prostitute, it’ll be too mechanical and I won’t enjoy it as much.
I sleep with prostitutes but I’ll admit that when its someone I feel something for, its loads better.
I actually have fun with prostitutes, its not what everyone thinks, when its a pro, she knows how to make you enjoy yourself.
She pretends that she likes me and its almost playful.
Prostitutes are disgusting, why would anyone want to have sex with someone who’s had half the city inside her?
I’m in a serious relationship, but I still get off doing it with a whore occasionally
Its too much of a thrill getting it on with a woman who you’re really into to want to pay for something that’s fake
I’ve never paid for sex so I can’t afford to really have an opinion. I don’t like non-smokers and non-drinkers giving me their opinion on things. But since it is my blog, I guess I can get to have my say here right?
I agree with some of the statements above. Its far better than emotional complications sometimes. You can enjoy it if you want to. But I also agree that the best sex happens when there’s a connection between the 2 people.
I also think that those people (women especially) who look down on prostitutes should stop and try to understand them once in a while. Someone said, no matter how desperate I am I’ll never stoop to that level. Why is prostitution a “level” below what you do? Everyone works hard at their jobs, and I would assume that even a prostitute wouldn’t make much money if she wasn’t good at what she does. I’m good at my job. She’s good at hers. This whole social stigma about the difference between a “respectable” job and prostitution sucks. Look at countries like Thailand who have proper red light districts. Its a professional business for them. Bringing in millions every year. No one who goes to that country can come back saying they didn’t get some kind of sexual kick out of it. (For me it was going to the gay bars and gay strip clubs. Shoot me, but I like watching boys getting it on)If we had a proper system like that here, we’d have better quality prostitutes, well groomed and clean. This country wouldn’t be in dire straits financially either. Sri Lanka as a country is far more beautiful than Thailand any day. So add a few more thrills to it and I honestly think we can surpass them. We’d go back to the 60’s style of make love and not war. Don’t you think people would be far too busy getting in on to get off on this war anymore? 😉
Another thing, its the common assumption that prostitution is something one resorts to when they run out of any possible other options to make money. It maybe true to a great extent in this country, and if it is the case, I wonder why no one bothers to understand them. But I also think that there are times it is done out of choice. A career decision of sorts. Hardly ever here, but most certainly it is the case in other parts of the world. Its something you use your body to do, like a construction worker or a dancer. Some jobs are physical and others are intellectual. Isn’t that just the way it goes?
I know I may have shocked some people and ruffled some feathers with my loose and moral free opinion here. But I think there are bigger sins in the world that prostitution. Its one of the oldest trades in the world after all. It couldn’t have survived millenia if there wasn’t a need for it. Its my opinion. Its my blog. So there.
Back to my original point though. Sex is meant to be had. But a connection between the two (or many) people who have it makes it much more than just having it. Its just out of this world. Even a five minute fuck in a corridor is nicer when you look into that person’s eyes and know the effect you have on them and vice versa.
Sex for me goes beyond the physical and its always better to be had that way.
I’m going to bookmark this page and keep this as reference.
I guess why some people who are in relationships prefer it with prostitutes, is ‘cos it’s better with them. Also, (mostly for guys), prostitutes come in handy, when the women they’re with just doesn’t give in.
I agree with you though. If you’re having fabulous sex with someone you’re madly in love with, that makes it a kick-arse combination. There’s nothing like having a man tell you it’s bloody amazing and that he loves you, all in one session; especially if you’re damn sure he means it.
ps – This must be the first time we’ve agreed on anything 🙂
“We’d go back to the 60’s style of make love and not war. Don’t you think people would be far too busy getting in on to get off on this war anymore? ;-)”
he he now thats a nice idea…
Can i throw another wrench in here? Is the money the only difference between a night with a prostitute and a one night stand? (this is of course re: only one of the parties involved….. or i guess that number can vary as well cant it? 😉 )
You really cant say what you would or would not do for sure can you? Circumstances change all the time and you never really know what you’d do to adapt to the change.
At the end of the day we HAVE to pay in some form or the other.
Theres no such thing as a free lunch, remember…
Interesting.
You have forgotten the huge and lucrative EastEuropean skin trade plyed at five star level. They don’t do it from necessity, they have no other option?
And yes on the other hand I know some of them live in Colombo even with their children and they do it as a business. Some of the lucky one’s even now have rich Sri Lankan husbands.
And culturally this whole ‘sex is taboo’ ‘she must be a virgin’ thingy adds a lot. Long time ago there was a UN report on AIDS in Colombo and the need to promote condoms. 90% of the prostitutes in Colombo, the street walkers were used by youth from wealthy families.
And finally I am not speaking for all men here, when I was a single lad, just the fact of bedding a prostitute without any hang ups was a release itself. It was a pure business transaction. Get horny, pay, ejaculate. No – was it good for you? Am I hurting you? Does that feel good? Did you come?
My contention has always been we always pay for sex, if not through money, then indirectly, through flowers, dinner. So you see, we are all prostitutes.
It’s just mighty unfair that when money changes hands directly, instead of say, through gifts, it’s suddenly morally degradable. Nonsense.
I wrote more here and here .
I once heard someone say something very insightful about sex with prostitutes, and clearly defines their attraction over regular amateur partners.
“You don’t pay her to have sex with you. You pay her to go away afterwards.”
Casual no-strings sex (one-night stands, etc) is actually quite rare in Sri Lanka, and is possibly the reason why even guys who do have ready access to a sexual partner opt for hookers. There’s always a string.
Hi all and thanks for the comments. Just wanted to add my 2 cents worth to some of you –
ME – why on earth are you keeping this as a bookmark?
Tanya – I remember you agreeing with me on the MMS post too! 😉
David – Nicely put. There IS always a string isn’t there?
Generally to the everyone – yes I agree with you that flowers and dinner is also some kind of payment in a sense, but only if they are being done with the ultimate objective of getting someone into bed vs. the enjoyment of going out and sharing the other person’s company.
Drifting BY – considering the myriad opinions you had last evening I’m surprised you haven’t voiced any of them here!
Forbidden sex enslaves us to lust. For a time, our forays into the forbidden may deliver pleasure, but soon we’ll want more risk, more exposure, more thrill, etc., and we’ll go deeper into depravity. Our own actions can bring a type of curse upon ourselves, such that we are unable to enjoy the good things
Creating a separate state for tamils is easier than making prostitution legal in SRI LANKA
Totally agree with you that the prostitutes are not “below” a “level” when compared to those who do other jobs. They deserve the same respect as “other” women. Period.
I think prostitution should be legalised to protect them, shoot the pimps (those that just collect the money, i.e. without doing anything else) and shoot those who traffic children in to prostitution.
Appu sez Making prostitution legal would be an act of kindness (for prostitutes).
Appu also Making Tamils live in a separate state (w/Velupakse) would be an act of cruelty (for Tamils).
but wait! …….. perhaps, just perhaps, TimesEye might have stumbled on a solution to both of our vexing problems???
Appu will call General Sarath Fonseka and ask him to confine his army to their barracks. All this fighting is getting us nowhere but the cemetary and there is nothing funny about a trip to the cemetary!
Appu will also call Nalin Fonseka (you cant keep the Fonsekas out of this) and ask him to send a busload of his East European Hookers to the LTTE FDL.
Appu knows the Tigers not going to claymore a bus fully of Pussies and in all probability they’d be rushed to the Supremo’s bunker for interrogation… and that would be the begining of the end of the LTTE. Of course, the cunning tart manouvre is sure to make its way into military manuals and elevate the worth of hookers in our social consciousness!
We can all then unashamedly ask for more….
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You cant keep the Fonsekas out of anything Gini Appu. Seemingly Amila Fonseka is back in town and upto his old tricks and Nalin Fonseka is aparently opening a new casiono too
i agree with timeseye but then again its not like politicians dont get off on hookers.
also apparently in the law books its okay to prostitute yourself but you cant be part of a brothel or pimp “owned”
Nalin Fonseka’s casino was halted from opening by MR and co
Hottest Fonseka is joining town too. Sheran Fonseka. Currently he is involved with Tania Deen, wife and mother. He is the keeper of this model, who pleasures anyone. Looks like new kid on the block is up to worst tricks than Nalin Fonseka. Wonder what business he will open up if Nalin is starting a new casino? All we can say is it will be full of his keepers just like others entertained their ladies.
funny that nalin fonseka does not even know who sheran fonseka is. some relation.
Sheran Fonseka? Looks like Fonsekas have all the fun. Although Nalin Fonseka casino troubles, Pavitra Fernando (Olympic Chairman Hemasiri Fernando’s son) has opened a new club and gathering a good crowd. Noticed some chatter on Amila Fonseka and ape Ana Kella but the last I saw the guy he was with the indian/sri lankan actress Aksha Sudri. Also chatter around a possible return to politics by Hemasiri Fernando, will he contest?