Yes indeedy. I think its about time I blogged about this. I’ve heard people claim to have them but alas I’ve never been able to manage getting into one of those. Call me a sad, silly girl, but I’ve always been afraid that I might get emotionally attached to the person. Maybe I won’t, but why take the risk? Falling for a fuck buddy will only make this a real mess and cease to make the person what they were initially intended to be.
Since I’ve never had one or been one, I’ve been thinking of what it would actually entail. Two strangers who meet, have an insatiable desire for eachother and become booty calls for eachother? Two friends who are attracted to eachother and decide to sleep together regularly with no romantic entanglements? The second one would seem the most logical explanation but I find that one the hardest thing to accept. When friends turn into lovers, how can there be nothing emotional about it? Doesn’t that more or less mean a relationship? Please pardon my ignorance. Like I said, haven’t ventured into those tempting waters…yet.
What about one night stands then? I’ve always had amazing notions of those. Followed by many sighs. From a whole list of songs that tend to overly romanticize them ranging from that soppy one from Heart about a woman wanting a baby from a stranger to one by Journey that I’ll admit I like quite a lot. Don’t Stop Believing, I think the title was. About two strangers who find themselves lost and offer eachother comfort for the night. Why only for that night? If it was good, wouldn’t you want more? At least, and I dread to say this, since I’ve been chickening out on this whole thing, wouldn’t they want to become fuck buddies?
And another alternative. How about not questioning or branding lust by any other name? Sorry Shakespeare, but in this case, called by any other name, its just not as sweet. Lust knows no reason, from my point of view, at least.
Screw (pardon the pun) what it’s supposed to be called and give into it. Let it happen once or twice or over and over again. Simply because you want to. Hmmm…. putting along those un-branded lines, things seem a lot less scary n’est ce pas?
Sigh indeed. I’ve ventured into the fuck buddy world twice and fortunately i managed to stay emotionally unattached with the 1st and unfortunately fell head over heels for the 2nd. And let me tell you there’s nothing worse than falling for the buddy that doesnt want to have any commitments. That said, newly single me did get a few offers from fuck buddies who i turned down in the past and was about to venture into it again with one of them this weekend when at the last minute i chickened out. Just couldnt do it.
So let me tell you this. Having a fuck buddy does have its advantages and its disadvantages too, but if you start out knowing where your limits will be and you stick to it, your home free. Its not just people who’ve never done it that are scared of venturing into it, people who have done it have their doubts too. My advise to you, GO FOR IT! If you cant do it now, when can you?
My experience with a fuck buddy…While I’ve had my share of romantic partners(including two wife’s), it wasn’t until just a little more than a year ago that I had the fuck buddy opportunity. It was great. We were coworkers and got together and took advantage of our working situation a quite few times. We got along great, even got together a few times after work, but because I’m technically married, the after hours liaisons were limited. Which may have been one reason it worked for us. Unfortunately she took another job making more money and married her boss. I was happy for her, as a friend, but sadly have not had ANY sexual encounters since our last (hate the wife).
I need to find a new fuck buddy now. I don’t see it happening anytime soon though
wattage says : I absolutely agree with this !
hmm… Is there a line? and where is it?
one night stands. its fine. just forget about it after wards. but fuck buddies; the longer it takes the more emotions set it. we are human after all.
Somehow i missed the point. Probably lost in translation
Anyway … nice blog to visit.
cheers, Repository!!
Ugh. no. just no. too brainwashed with the idyllic view of marraige and commitment. I don’t mind. boring? yea
I am unable to engage in repeated encounters (with a fuck buddy) without emotionally getting attached. One night stands are better in that regard.
Also there is something different in a one night stand. The excitement, the last few mins that leads upto it, the novelty, the untamed passions…. they all add up to it.
fuck buddy vs one night stand?
at least a fuck buddy will do you more favours/run a few errands (after all you guys ARE still friends right?) than someone you just fuck one night and then forget.
You got to check this video out I found on Youtube. Its badass.
Let me know what you guys think.
youtube video
Fuck buddy
I thought only I was being sarcastic on my blog. Now I’m not alone…………
hey natty,
have gone that route..tried NOT to get involved. but ended up in a 2 year thing…total mess. DO NOT even go close. not worth the hassle OR the SEX! lol.
urghh this is my situation ;
So i’ve known this guy for about 3 years or so but we never really talked before but it’s about to be almost 2 years since i’ve met him that me and him have been having sex without nobody knowing.
You can pretty much call him my “fuck buddy” .
The thing is with this guy i’ve gain feelings for him knowing i should’nt because he just uses me for sex and i know that but i don’t listen ; i’m hardheaded when it comes to him. I don’t know why i’m digging him the way i am and i can’t really talk to any of my friends about it since nobody knows . I want to be more then just a “fuck buddy” ; I want to be his girlfriend but i can’t admit it to because i KNOW it will fuck things up between us .
i need some advice ; please contact me at doingme420@yahoo.com
oh man, i hear ya.. i’m in the same exact situation as you are, except i don’t want to be the guy’s “girlfriend”.
after i met this guy, my only intentions were to become friends. but one thing lead to another and i can say that we’ve done it more times than i could think to count.
a part of me wants to keep talking to him but he just doesn’t seem to care to become friends after we’ve already gone so far.. like i really think that we could be the friends i wanted the both of us to be.. maybe i’m just denying what is really true n i can’t face the truth.
but another part of me is telling me that i should just continue living life the way i did before i met him.
i guess either way this thing ends, i’ll end up getting hurt.
Hi Anon… if you feel like the guy is using you, then it really doesn’t seem like the classic fuck buddy scenario anyway. You’re supposed to enjoy it, not feel used. Take care and I hope you manage to find the answers you’re looking for. You can mail me anytime at nattyskywalker@yahoo.com
i fell hard for a fuckbuddy who purposely set me up to fall and i’ve seen him on and off for 3 years in the spaces between his boyfriends…
i’ve gone insane
i love this girl named rachael she and i are fuck buddys and i want more yes i am a guy but i want her and a relationship to she just says fuckbuddys or nothing and it really hurts because i love her but i guess its just luke warm for her sigh help me
It depends on the person and the communication. But at times you can become attached to a person after you have had sex a lot.
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I hear you!
ive a fuck buddy 2 now for bout 7 months and i have totally fell for him big time. he said he dont want a grlfriend jus wants 2 have a laugh. 2 me it feels that were way more than fuck buddy we ring n text each other everyday c each other every weekend his friends say hes mad bout me but is afraid of a relationship. i dunno wat 2 do should i tell him or wat im afraid it mite ruin everything please help
Hey Jelly Tots, I maybe no expert on the topic myself, but I have a friend going through something similar & I may have some insights into the situation in that sense. Firstly I think women read too much into every gesture and word and when you add sex to that, it becomes a lethal combination. We’re hooked. They aren’t. They fall madly in lust and as much as they seem into you, they may not want the same things that you want out of it. If you can enjoy it for what it is and not question it, then go ahead and enjoy every glorious moment of it. If not, back off now and save yourself the heartache that’s sure to come.
Ofcourse, I maybe completely wrong because I don’t know either person and it always works differently for different combinations of people.
The fuckbuddy waters is very very tempting… I’ve been in one. He’s a guy who I don’t want to even think of being in a relationship simply because he’s waaaaaay out of my league. Sophistication wise. I would have been completely uncomfortable in his world and to be honest I can’t exactly picture him sitting on the floor with friends even SHARING a cigarette! So considering I had had a crush on this guy for nearly 10 years… the only option was friendship with extra spice. AKA fuckbuddy. I think it’s something everyone should try. IF you can manage to stay emotionally untangled ONLY.
Oh ya… mine was about 15-20 yrs older to me. So does that still fall into the same category? Hmm…. Something to ponder about…